A man and his girlfriend were married. It was a large celebration. All of their friends and family came to see the lovely ceremony and to partake of the festivities and celebrations. A wonderful time was had by all. The bride was gorgeous in her white wedding gown and the groom was very dashing in his black tuxedo. Everyone could tell that the love they had for each other was true.A few months later, the wife comes to the husband with a proposal: “I read in a magazine, a while ago, about how we can strengthen our marriage.” she offered. “Each of us will write a list of the things that we find a bit annoying with the other person. Then, we can talk about how we can fix them together and make our lives happier together.”
The husband agreed. So each of them went to a separate room in the house and thought of the things that annoyed them about the other. They thought about this question for the rest of the day and wrote down what they came up with.
The next morning, at the breakfast table, they decided that they would go over their lists. “I’ll start,” offered the wife. She took out her list. It had many items on it. Enough to fill 3 pages, in fact. As she started reading the list of the little annoyances, she noticed that tears were starting to appear in her husbands eyes. “What’s wrong?” she asked. “Nothing” the husband replied, “keep reading your list.”
The wife continued to read until she had read all three pages to her husband. She neatly placed her list on the table and folded her hands over top of it. “Now, you read your list and then we’ll talk about the things on both of our lists.” She said happily.
Quietly the husband stated, “I don’t have anything on my list. I think that you are perfect the way that you are. I don’t want you to change anything for me. You are lovely and wonderful and I wouldn’t want to try and change anything about you.”
The wife, touched by his honesty and the depth of his love for her and his acceptance of her, turned her head and wept.
IN LIFE, there are enough times when we are disappointed, depressed and annoyed. We don’t really have to go looking for them.
We have a wonderful world that is full of beauty, light and promise...
Why waste time in this world looking for the bad, disappointing or annoying things when we can look around us, and see the wondrous things before us?
'I believe that WE ARE HAPPIEST when we see and praise the good and try our best to forgo the mistakes of our loved one. Nobody’s perfect but we can find perfection in them to change the way we see them. It is necessary to understand the difficulties and be a helping hand to each other….
THAT BRIGHTENS THE RELATIONSHIP! '
We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge...
People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever. Pause and ponder. Think before you act. Be patient. Forgive & forget. Love one and all.
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I love reading this too.. ;)
Check it out "Spouse From God" posted by Forever Tulip.
---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------p/s: I always love u J...
this is really beautiful. but not every couple can do that
ReplyDelete>>> Jerine <<<
ReplyDeleteYea, indeed if every couple do so.. then there wont be any broken relationship.. *sigh*
Cheers,
---Sweet Lavender---
Oh wow, this is a beautiful story. I'm feeling extra emo since this morning, so it's not unnatural that I shed a tear reading this! :P
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing, Sweet Lavender. I will try to put this in my head and change whatever it is that needs to be change in me and my way of running my relationship with my loved one.
And oh, THANK YOU too for posting a link to my post. I really appreciate that. :D
Cindy @ Forever Tulip
>>> Ethel <<<
ReplyDeleteGreat that you like it! Me too.. :) Emo! Emo!
About the link, u're welcome! Sharing nice story to all.. ;)
Cheers,
---Sweet Lavender---
Hiya Sweet Lavender, me again! Haha!
ReplyDeleteOh.. I didn't know you're Sarawakian. I'm Sabahan, but Bunny (my bf) is Sarawakian. :D
;) Err.. I think you ever mentioned b4 right? Hihi.. Soon you'll be Sarawakian too lor.. ^^ I like Sabah so much but never been there b4.. :D
ReplyDeleteCheers,
--Sweet Lavender---
I did?! Oh my.. forgive me for having such short term memory. Bunny always say that I have this short term memory loss..
ReplyDeleteI've never been to Sarawak too, so that makes us even! LOL! But I might be coming to Sarawak this Gawai with him. So excited! :D
>>> Ethel <<<
ReplyDeleteIt's ok.. As long as u not forget your Bunny! ;)
Cheers,
---Sweet Lavender---
What you said is definitely right! If only all of us only look at the good side of our loved one...
ReplyDeleteeven if every couple can do that, that doesn't mean there won't be broken relationship anymore. there are many other factors why people break ups. sometimes, relationship turn stale. i know a friend who has been dating her boyfriend for 5 years. everyone thought they are going to get married. eventually, they broke up. when i asked her why, she said they are bored of each other. i'm afraid that might happen to mine
ReplyDelete>>> jam <<<
ReplyDeleteYea, but hardly that every couple can do that. :) But why not we become the one?
>>> Jerine <<<
Well, you're right! It's just one of the many many factors.. Nah.. Don't think too much.. Your relationship with your loved one will be alright. :)
Cheers,
---Sweet Lavender---
Hi Sweet Lavender..
ReplyDeleteNice story ya... I like it! The story is really meaningful.. Thanks for sharing.. :)
>>> Rhythm of My Soul <<<
ReplyDeleteGlad that you like it.. :)
Yea, indeed it's very meaningful.
Cheers,
---Sweet Lavender---